|(Do-in-ar, March 31, 12 Noon PST, 2 pm CST, 3 pm EDT)|
Is there anyone you know – and have to deal with – where an incoming text or email or voice mail from them or just the mention of their name puts a knot in your stomach? What if there were an immediately “doable by you” way to interact with them where you not only can stop avoiding them, but you may even get them to behave in a civil manner?
Bullying creates a miserable work environment that undermines performance and increases employee turnover.
The only way to stop a bully — whether it’s your boss, colleague, or employee — is to confront them. How to do that effectively is vital so that you do not wind up getting p—d off or p—d on.
I’ve teamed up with executive coach, international best-selling author, and former FBI/police hostage negotiation trainer, Mark Goulston, M.D. for a 1-hour do-in-ar to teach you, show you, and train you to effectively deal with any and all toxic personalities in your professional and personal lives.
The do-in-ar is on March 31 at 2 pm US Central time.
Here’s the game-plan: 20-minutes of how-to, 20-minutes of individual work on the “confront your bully” assignment, and 20 minutes of advice from Mark and me.
To get the zoom invitation, please make a donation to your favorite cause and reply to this email.
1. Think about the most toxic and difficult people you have to deal with either as an employee, boss, or even outsider (got any Activist Board Directors?)
2. Be open and willing to learn effective techniques and tactics that will help you become proficient and confident in confronting these people.
3. Come with a list of any questions you have regarding handling any conflicts you may now be avoiding.
Donate to your favorite cause, reply to this email, and I’ll send you the invitation right away.
If you’re not sure which organization needs your donation most, Mark recommends Choose Life, an organization dedicated to teen suicide prevention https://www.chooselife.org/donate.
Mark Goulston, M.D. is a former FBI/police hostage negotiation trainer, UCLA professor of psychiatry, and is currently a Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches, executive coach, advisor, and confidante to Founders, entrepreneurs, and CEO’s from startups to the Fortune 500. He is the author or co-author of nine books including his book, “Just Listen,” translated into twenty-seven languages, which became the top book on listening in the world, and Talking to Crazy: How to Deal with the Irrational and Impossible People in Your Life, whose Russian edition, How to Talk to A**holes, went viral in that country. His most recent (March 23, 2021) co-authored book is Trauma to Triumph: A Roadmap for Leading Through Disruption and Thriving on the Other Side is a guide for leaders leading through a world that is bullying them from every direction with crises.
Christopher D. Kolenda, Ph.D., founder of the Strategic Leaders Academy, works with leaders who want to build great teams that drive the business to greater success. Chris is a West Point graduate, internationally renowned combat leader, retired Army Colonel, business leader, and author of Leadership: The Warrior’s Art , which has sold over 60,000 copies. He has appeared on CNN, MSNBC, BBC, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, The Economist, The New York Times, and The Washington Post. His battlefield leadership has been featured in several books, including Jake Tapper’s bestseller The Outpost.
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Chris Kolenda, Ph.D.
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