Wouldn’t You Agree? #40 Why relationships end
Q: Why do intimate relationships end?
A: Relationships end not because you stop loving each other, but because you stop liking and/or stop feeling liked by each other.
A frequent cause of this is that one partner is constantly trying to make the other partner into what he or she needs that other partner to be and dislikes and resents that other partner for not going along with it, and for not appreciating it. Over time the other partner comes to feel hurt, then resentment, then anger and finally emotionally shuts down and withdraws to protect himself or herself from feeling so disliked by the first partner. At that point the relationship has turned into an arrangement, because all the relating to each other has been replaced by resentment. Game over (sadly, some couples remain together for years after reaching this point).
Wouldn’t you (sadly) agree?
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