Usable Insight – Neurotic Narcissist Continuum
Where are you?
| Quickly anxious | Slow to upset | Quickly irritable |
| Don’t feel entitled to what they deserve | Feel entitled to what they deserve | Feel entitled to what they don’t deserve |
| Think they’re wrong more often than they are | Think they’re wrong when they believe they are | Never think they’re wrong |
| Say they’re sorry too often | Say they’re sorry when they feel they’ve been wrong | Never say they’re sorry or if they do, don’t actually believe it |
| Profusely apologize if they bump into you | Sincerely say they’re sorry if they bump into you | Look at you with a look that says, “Hey stupid, look where you’re walking!” when they bump into you |
| Need approval, come off needy | Like validation and acknowledgement when they’ve done well | Require obedience, come off demanding |
| Whine and complain | Request | Criticize and demand |
| When told they’re smart and attractive, don’t believe it and become embarrassed | Accept compliments and politely say, “Thank you” | Expect to be told they’re smart and attractive |
| Never feel good enough | Feel good about self and make others feel good about themselves | Make others feel they’re never good enough |
| Lacking authority | Authoritative | Authoritarian |
| Devastated when told “No” | Disappointed when told “No” | Enraged when told “No” |
| Drain the life out of you | Cause you to feel lucky to have them in your life | Beat the life out of you |
(c) 2010 Mark Goulston
Tags: narcissist, neurotic, personality, personality disorders
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