Comments on: Usable Insight – It’s Okay to Be a People Pleaser

By: GE

GE — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 22:36:28 +0000

Great post! I’ve been caught in a cycle for months now with an employer who takes and takes and takes — and has no yet even met the original agreement of our contract! I’ve been kind, polite and open; and I’ve discussed ‘fair’ and ‘reasonable’ arrangements for too long. Thanks for opening my eyes!

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By: Sean Allen

Sean Allen — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:09:16 +0000

Wow, My wife sat down and read this with me and patted me on the back and said, “that’s you.” I am glad to hear that being a people pleaser is not the problem. In retrospect, I think there is something here concerning giving away my time and effort much too freely to takers. This is a big help in learning to discern these types of people.

I was listening to my Pastor at Church preaching on this subject yesterday, he said that if you serve, you will succeed. Serving frees you from pride, ego, and self-centerdness, and the greatest test of humilty is how you act, when someone treats you like a servant. He went on to say that Acts of service should always flow from an attitude that does not have selfish motivation, one that is not looking for recognition, or appreciation.

I agree with his closing thoughts that there are two kinds of people, givers and takers. The takers never have enough, never pull their weight, and often have a sense of entitlement. Givers, on the other hand, always have enough. I hope that I can come across one person this week that I can serve in this way.

By: Larry Sharpe

Larry Sharpe — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 23:40:03 +0000

Good solid advice that debunks the myth of just give and give and hope. I put a link to this under the articles section of my website so that my visitors can see this. Thank you.

By: judy

judy — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 03:06:20 +0000

Very insightful. Gives you the idea to take a moment to pause after the favor has been asked, and really think about what is being asked of you. I have never had that skill until recently, I would say yes and then sometimes come to regret it. I don’t mind helping, but I am tired of the takers or everything done on their time. Pausing, gives you more time to dissect the question, and you don’t have to feel guilty to say no.