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oprah
Posted on August 16th, 2014 by Mark Goulston

Q: What are the two secrets to a happy marriage?

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parentsarguing
Posted on August 10th, 2014 by Mark Goulston

Q: What is most frustrating to children about their parents?

A: When their parents fail to fully resolve any of their marital conflicts and just keep fighting over them.

It is not conflict between parents that is most upsetting to children, because conflicts in life are unavoidable.  It is that their parents never seem to fully resolve those conflicts, but instead keep arguing and fighting over them. To make matters worse, children often internalize a view about conflicts that nothing makes them better which can lead to not dealing effectively with them later in life.

Wouldn’t you agree?

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cruelladevil
Posted on August 9th, 2014 by Mark Goulston

My last living mentor, Warren Bennis, passed away on 7/31.  A few days later, there was a gathering at his home to share condolences with his widow Grace Gabe and to celebrate what Warren meant to all of us.  What was peculiar, but not surprising was Warren’s ability to make you feel so special, so what we all had in common was our love for Warren as well as the feeling of having been loved him [you can read my tribute to him at: Warren Bennis (1925-2014) - A Personal Remembrance].

At the gathering I spoke with Marty Kaplan, Norman Lear Professor of Entertainment at USC. And in a matter of fact manner he told me that in a strange way he was comforted to discover that Norman Lear, Warren and he had in common a mother that he referred to as a sado-narcissist.  Marty originated the term, which I had never heard before, and mentioned it in his recent blog, “If Norman Lear at 92 is What, I’ll Have What He’s Having,”  about Norman Lear who has recently finished his memoirs.

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linkedin
Posted on August 3rd, 2014 by Mark Goulston

If you’re judged by the company you keep, it’s an honor to be a Top Contributor at these LinkedIn groups:

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