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Posted on July 6th, 2014 by Mark Goulston

In today’s world of blame and finger-pointing, we’re teaching our kids that accountability and responsibility are slippery slopes that don’t mean what they used to. For example, have you witnessed a parent-teen conversation that went anything like this:

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divorce-lawyer-for-men
Posted on July 6th, 2014 by Mark Goulston

Q: What causes divorce?

A: Lack of mutually agreed on code of conduct that may not stop all differences or opinions before they become disagreements, but will stop any disagreements from escalating into an argument, fight, ultimatum, war and game over.

And… why don’t couples agree to it? Because when something happens that one or the other (or both) person(s) disagrees with or doesn’t like something the other person said or did, all bets (and agreements) are off.

And… why do you become involved with such a person? Because “when you’re in love smoke gets in your eyes (and brain).”

And… why don’t couples discuss in more detail how each feels about and what are the deal breakers regarding: children (number and how to raise them), money (attitudes and spending habits), sex (who wants more), emotional closeness (who needs more), where live, buying home, parents, friends, religion, etc. Because “when you’re in love smoke gets in your eyes (and brain).”

And… finally, if one or the other of you believes the above is b.s., then when you’re upset, you’re the one that can’t deal with things calmly to prevent them from escalating past disagreement (and you may likely have a personality disorder).

Wouldn’t you agree?

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why-cant-he-say-i-love-you
Posted on July 6th, 2014 by Mark Goulston

Just because your guy is afraid to say, “I love you,”

doesn’t mean he doesn’t

If he feels it, why won’t he say it? And pressuring him to say it isn’t going to make him want to say it any sooner. So what’s going on?

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Meeting Picture
Posted on July 6th, 2014 by Mark Goulston

Q: What will increase meeting follow through?

A: The more prepared people are for a meeting the more likely they will be to follow through.

That may because they will want a return on their effort.  At the very least if their preparation isn’t used they will want their effort to  be valued as opposed to blown off.

Wouldn’t you agree?

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