Happy July 4: How Independent are Your Children?
The measure of true independence
is how self-reliant, resourceful and coachable you are.
I work with many successful CEO’s, executives, senior managers to become even more successful. Something they have in common and in spades are self-reliance, resourcefulness and coachability.
Self-reliance means that their default mode is to be responsible and take on increasing responsibility to further their companies, their teams, and their missions. They don’t pass the buck, make excuses or stay submerged in indecisiveness.
Resourcefulness means that they are clear about the resources they need to accomplish their goals and are not hesitant in accessing those resources. They are also reciprocators by nature, meaning they don’t take other’s effort for granted and give back to those who help them out.
Coachability means they seek, listen to and act upon solid, relevant input from others (even Tiger Woods has had coaches his entire career). In realizing the value of such coaching they have learned to also be great coaches to their people. They are NOT “know-it-alls,” but are constantly seeking to know all of it so they can make the best decisions.
What is the relevance of this to your children and the 4th of July?
The more self-reliant, resourceful and coachable your children are, the better their lives. The less they are of each of those (and the more they are overly dependent or act like “know-it-alls”), the worse their lives and more miserable you will be.
Use July 4 to have a conversation with your kids about what being “independent” means to them. After they answer it, ask them what they think about about the notions of being self-reliant (translate it to being able to depend on yourself), resourceful (translate it to being able to come up with solutions and the best help for problems they may face) and coachable (translate it to being able to find the best people to give them the best advice to help them do whatever they want to do).
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(c) 2008 Mark Goulston
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