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Dependent - You’re needy. You lean on and on top of people. You try to get other people to take on your problems as their responsibility to fix. You’ve got the kiss of death with regard to personal and professional relationships. You need to stand up and grow up.

Pseudo-independent - You act un-needy, but you’re really prideful, don’t believe anyone else will do it right and don’t want to be beholding to anyone. You can’t really do life without other people. Your “empire” is no more than a Glass Menagerie, but as long as you don’t see it that way, it doesn’t seem to matter to you that everyone else does.

Independent - You are needful. You lean into people. You get input from others, but keep your problems as your responsibility. You are mature enough to realize that until you can be effectively interdependent, you can’t be independent.

From: The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship: How to Fall in Love Again…and Stay There

(c) 2007 Mark Goulston

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