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• April 24

  Obama/Clinton - Looking for Leverage in All the Wrong Places

• April 10

  In the best interest of your child

• April 3

  Don't Confuse a Depressed Teenager with an Anxious One

• March 31

  A college rejection is not the end of the world...or your life

• March 28

  Sex-starved husbands - It's midnight, do you know where your Eliot is?

• March 23

  Forget Eliot Spitzer, what was his wife thinking?

• March 20

  12 Hints It's Time to Call It Quits in Your Relationship

• March 13

  Too little, too late for Spitzer, but maybe not for you

• March 6

  Confidence vs. Arrogance - Are you listening Hillary and Barack?

• February 29

  HIllary: A Case of "Fearful Aggression"

• February 21

  Obama and Clinton Debate in Texas - Try THIS Spin

• February 16

  The Mind of a School Shooter

• February 7

  10 Habits of Highly Happy Couples

• January 31

  The Secret to Being a Great Leader

• January 26

  Why A**holes Win

• January 22

  Heath Ledger, Your Children and You

• January 18

  A Life With No Regrets

• January 12

  Work and Family: Quality Time on a Low Quantity Time Budget

• January 5

  You Can Still Make and Keep Your New Year's Resolutions

• December 29

  Will YOU keep your New Year's Resolutions?

• December 22

  God's Gift to Man

• December 13

  Papertrain your problem relatives for Xmas

• December 8

  Put a TIGER in YOUR Tank

• December 1

  How to Avoid an Argument

• November 24

  Dr. Mark's 5 Step Marketing Plan

• November 16

  A POWER THANK YOU for Thanksgiving

• November 10

  How to End the WGA Strike

• November 3

  The Secret to Emotional Freedom

• October 28

  Law and CPA Firm Killer

• October 22

  Are you bored?

• October 14

  Seven Steps to Success

• October 7

  Know any angry teenagers?

• September 29

  Teach Your Children Well

• September 22

  Why men won't say, "I love you"

• September 15

  A Good Death

• September 10

  Commemorating 9/11

• September 9

  Certainty in Uncertainty's Clothing

• September 1

  The Secret to Success a.k.a. "Why kissups win"

• August 25

  The "Real" Mother Teresa

• August 19

  Marketing vs. Sales

• August 12

  Recruit or Die

• August 4

  Culture Eats Strategy for Lunch

• July 30

  Why Men Use Pornography (and How to Get Yours to Stop)

• July 22

  Divorce-Proof Your (Next) Marriage

• July 15

  Sell them what they want...

• July 8

  As told to Oprah

• July 1

  Happy July 4: How Independent Are You?

• June 25

  Laziness vs. Fear of Authority

• June 18

  Are YOU Listening?

• June 13

  bonus - Happy Father's Day - belated

• June 10

  Unmotivated, Uncommitted and Unaccountable need not apply

• June 3

  Stop Caring About People

• May 27

  A Memorial Day Lesson

• May 20

  Are You Out of Touch?

• May 6

  The worst they can say is, "No"

• April 30

  Dare to Be Direct

• April 29

  How civilized are we?

• April 22

  Getting an Upset Person to Calm Down

• April 16

  Recognizing Potentially Violent People

• April 3

  Solve THIS Problem

• March 26

  How Prenups Kill Romance

• March 20

  Lawyers Beware!

• March 13

  A Bitter Pill to Swallow

• March 6

  Never...

• February 27

  The Secret to Solving ANY Relationship Problem

• February 20

  The Secret to "The Secret"

• February 14

  One of the best conversations you'll ever have with your partner

• January 30

  Change Your Life in 5 Minutes

• January 23

  Always...

• January 16

  A "No Lose" Proposition

• January 9

  No More Bullsh*t

• January 2

  The "Real" Fat-Free Diet

• December 26

  Keep Your New Year's Resolutions

• December 20

  The Best Gifts in Life are Free

• December 11

  Seize the opportunity to speak of opportunity

• December 5

  Have Yourself a "Valuable" Little Christmas

• November 29

  'Tis the Season to Be Realistic

• November 24

  Gratitude: Prequel to The Power Thank You

• November 15

  Why we laugh at Borat...and funerals

• November 8

  A mama's boy tragedy

• November 1

  The "Never Again" Tool

• October 25

  "You're out of the will!"

• October 19

  How's Your Self-Esteem?

• October 11

  Procrastination

• October 4

  Do You Get "Buy In"?

• September 27

  Don't Confuse Kind with Nice

• September 20

  The REAL Secret to Keeping Your Love Alive

• September 15

  Selling to the Discerning

• September 7

  Why Tiger Woods doesn't cheat

• August 31

  "Hmm?"

• August 24

  Good Grief

• August 17

  How to Get "Buy In"

• August 10

  Are You Raising Your Child to Succeed or Fail?*

• August 4

  "You are not alone" - Part 2: Women

• July 28

  "You are not alone" - Part 1: Men

• July 20

  Admiration vs. Respect

• July 14

  Israel, Lebanon, You and Me

• July 6

  Forget Questions, Fill in the Blanks

• June 30

  Power Thank You

• June 22

  Charm

• June 22

  You can't go wrong

• June 16

  An End to Anger

• June 9

  Never Eat Alone

• June 1

  Guts vs. Brains

• May 26

  "We need to talk!"

• May 20

  Ju-Jitsu for the High Maintenance Crowd

• May 12

  Waiting to Exhale

• May 5

  Fear of Commitment

• April 28

  The Secret to Peace of Mind

• April 22

  Beyond Transaction Myopia*

• April 15

  Think you're a good listener?

• April 8

  Why Marriages End

• April 1

  Listen to Your Gut

• March 25

  People Will Come

• March 18

  Declaration of Civility

• March 11

  Take the Hit - "The Breakfast of Champions"

• March 4

  Power Apology

• February 24

  Does Everyone Have ADD?

• February 19

  How to REALLY Win Friends and Influence People

• February 11

  The Most Difficult Decisions in Life

• February 4

  About Control

• January 29

  Awful People: Part 3 - How to Deal With Them

• January 21

  Awful People: Part 2 - Whiners

• January 15

  Awful People: Part 1 - Bullies

• January 9

  Don't Confuse Being Aggressive With Being Pushy

• January 2

  The Impossibility Question

• December 12

  Alternative to Performance Reviews

• December 5

  Career Success: A Play in 3 Acts

• November 28

  Problem with authority figures

• November 7

  Wealth vs. Worth

• October 31

  Know any "Zero Sum" personalities?

• October 24

  Cell phones and kid's sports

• October 17

  Need Some Perspective?

• October 10

  The Secret to a Happy 2nd Marriage

• October 3

  Communication 101, 102, 103, 104

• September 26

  The measure of a civilization...

• September 19

  Dealing with unreasonable people

• September 12

  Katrina, tsunami and 911 Opportunity

• September 5

  Kicking But: Overcoming Objections

• August 29

  Don't Confuse Agreement with Commitment

• August 22

  Are you secure, neurotic or narcissistic?

• August 15

  How to Win Friends and Influence (Important) People

• August 8

  Warren Buffett's Secret to Success

• August 3

  Strategy

• August 1

  Calling All Skeptics and Cynics

• July 25

  Home is where the heart is... Don't end up homeless.

• July 18

  Opening Act* - Get People to Pursue You

• July 15

  Sell them what they want...

• June 27

  Don't Confuse Reasonable with Realistic

• June 20

  Enspiration anyone?

• June 13

  Count to Three

• June 6

  Dissonance = Opt Out

• May 30

  Takers

• May 23

  Earning Forgiveness

• May 9

  The Secret Shame of Men and Women

• May 2

  Don't Confuse "I'm sorry" with "I'm sorry"

• April 25

  The Most Painful Truth in Life

• April 11

  Just say "Yes" to "No"

• April 4

  Red Flag

• April 4

  Be compelling to open, convincing to close

• March 28

  interpersonal hypnosis

• March 28

  Be Different or Pay the Price

• March 21

  Why eat just fish?

• March 14

  A good death

• March 7

  The REAL Life Cycle

• February 26

  Des-pair

• February 21

  Good Grief

• February 14

  Keep Your Love Alive

• February 3

  Stress vs. Distress

• February 2

  Harry Potter

• February 1

  Loss and Found

• February 1

  Win Friends and Influence People

• January 2

  What I Do; What I Won't Do