Road Back from Hell Archive

Posted on August 9th, 2014 by Mark Goulston

My last living mentor, Warren Bennis, passed away on 7/31.  A few days later, there was a gathering at his home to share condolences with his widow Grace Gabe and to celebrate what Warren meant to all of us.  What was peculiar, but not surprising was Warren’s ability to make you feel so special, so what we all had in common was our love for Warren as well as the feeling of having been loved him [you can read my tribute to him at: Warren Bennis (1925-2014) – A Personal Remembrance].

At the gathering I spoke with Marty Kaplan, Norman Lear Professor of Entertainment at USC. And in a matter of fact manner he told me that in a strange way he was comforted to discover that Norman Lear, Warren and he had in common a mother that he referred to as a sado-narcissist.  Marty originated the term, which I had never heard before, and mentioned it in his recent blog, “If Norman Lear at 92 is What, I’ll Have What He’s Having,”  about Norman Lear who has recently finished his memoirs.

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Posted on January 31st, 2013 by Mark Goulston

After thirty two years of being a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, I am embarrassed to say that I was confused about a number of things that made me less effective than I could have been. I didn’t do it intentionally, but to any patients and their families that I worked with without knowing the following, I apologize and want to tell you that there is still hope.

What I didn’t see clearly were the distinctions between Psychiatry, Psychotherapy, Counseling, Psychosocial Rehabilitation, Mentoring.

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Posted on October 17th, 2011 by Mark Goulston

As a psychiatrist I am on a constant quest to better understand (in hopes of better treating) those ailments of the mind that can cause what my late mentor, and suicide pioneer, Dr. Edwin Shneidman, referred to as “psychache” and by that meant, “general psychological and emotional pain that reaches intolerable intensity.” Read the rest of this entry »

Posted on July 27th, 2011 by Mark Goulston

When you listen for the pain, hurt and fear in people, it is always there.
And when people sense you doing that with no other motive than to alleviate all of those,
they will lower their walls and reveal them to you.
- Dr. Edwin Shneidman (1918 – 2009) American Psychologist, Suicidologist and mentor

“You listen into people’s eyes,” Doc Barham told me.

I said: “What?” Read the rest of this entry »